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[sam_gamgee]

My body hates me (aka Gym bunny update): I've gained six pounds and gone up about an inch in a couple areas. The trainer who usually does this stuff says that it may be because I usually get it done right before my period, so we're going to change my measure date and hopefully that'll help.

Joined Weight Watchers today with my mom. (Who, I'm almost positive, *so* doesn't need to lose any more weight.) *crosses fingers* Here's hoping it works because right now I'm 5 points under my limit and I think I've eaten more than I normally do. But we'll see what happens tomorrow when I do it for a full day.

Went to the beach for the past weekend (Thursday - Sunday) with my dad and my grandparents' camper. For the most part, we had a good time. Went down on Thursday, had a great day on the beach on Friday, visited Lambda Rising on Friday night, drove around a bunch on Saturday because of the somewhat crappy weather - but still had fun, saw The Bourne Supremacy on Saturday night - which was really good, and came home on Sunday.

The only down part was getting chewed out for being "very selfish" because I'm not losing weight. The whole thing had started when my dad quoted from a newspaper article about losing weight that, at one point, said "Losing weight is about taking control of your own life and as long as someone else tries to force you to change, they are subconsciously denying you that control. The core change that needs to occur inside of you never will." And I agreed with the quote because my parents have been trying for years to get me to lose weight by having me do one thing or another. And my dad was basically trying to guilt trip me into starting to lose. You lot know - I go to the gym regularly. Those of you who know me in real life know that I don't eat *that* badly. It's just that I tend to stress eat. And between being stressed out over not losing weight, classes (when I was in school), and whatever else - not a good thing. And the fact that the only person I get any positive reinforcement that isn't couched in other nagging from is my grandfather - not good.


Anyone willing to adopt a 22-year-old Caucasian college grad with a B.A. in theatre production and English who can cook and clean, who only needs food, place to sleep, access to laundry and internet and a tiny bit of pocket money every once in a while, and is willing to clean and cook for you, and do childcare if need be?

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[wesleysgirl.livejournal.com]

This post made me grit my teeth, but not because of anything you've done or said.

You're 22 years old. No one, not even your parents, should be chewing you out because they think you weigh "too much." That's bullshit. Seriously. Your body is the way nature made it. If you are exercising regularly, that's great -- it's much more important to be fit than thin. If you sometimes eat because of stress... you know what? Thin people do this too!

*Hugs you* You are a wonderful human being, and you're taking care of yourself in the best ways you know how. What you weigh is just a number. It doesn't say anything important about you that *I* need to know.

[justhuman.livejournal.com]

*snuggles you hard*

You know, it's okay to call *Bullshit* on your parents.

[lixta.livejournal.com]

There comes a point where you *need* to take control of your own life. You should repeat that article quote to your family, because, essentially, they are hindering you with their nagging. Ask them to give you some space, and some peace from guilt trips, etc.

I'm proud of you- I hope you're proud of yourself, and sure enough to do what is best for you, regardless if what others think and say.

Or, you know, you could just tell everyone to fuck off.

[libralyte.livejournal.com]

Dear, you know that any time you want, you can come up and stay with me for a little while, right? I promise you, no one will bother you about losing weight up here. And also, have you talked to your grandfather about this? He seems to be the only one who's even moderately supportive of your efforts. Maybe he can get your dad and grammy to back off. Do you have friends from the gym that you'd be willing to introduce to your family? They might be able to help as well. And I agree with Rochie. Good luck.

[spikesleman.livejournal.com]

HIYA, stranger!

I'm also doing the WW thing. The new points system is ever so much easier to do than the old "everything you put in your mouth must be weighed and measured and you WILL eat exactly what we tell you to" days.

Control is so important to me. And WW is giving me that this time.

*evil grin* So, when can you move to NC? I have no child care for you to do but I'm sure I can think of something!

Oh. One more thing. I *so* understand the "my family isn't supportive" thing. Also the urge to control your child. I mean, I'd give my right arm if my older son would quit the smoking (both tobacco and pot). *sigh* I can see both sides. It's just so hard to realize that your "baby" is all grown up and has to make these decisions for him/herself. I'm trying and I wish your folks would, too.

((hugs))

[monet1873.livejournal.com]

*gags on wine...maybe it's the wine talking or my cranky mood, so please forgive me, but is your family delusional?! You're going to a gym and exercising, you just joined Weight Watchers, and they're still bitching? Maybe its time to a.) till them to f**k off or b.) disown them. Oh wait as sec, B is what I'd to to my family. Actually A too. Mmh, need to think of a better plan for you.

[sam-gamgee.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much. Your encouragement means a lot. And it's good to know that there are at least a couple sane people out there who don't think that being a size three is the most important thing *evah* or crap like that.


*Hugs you*

[sam-gamgee.livejournal.com]

*snuggles you back just as hard*


I just might do that next time. :-D

[sam-gamgee.livejournal.com]

I am taking control - just not in the time period my family wants, I don't think. And I think I will quote that article to them the next time (and the next and the next...) and hopefully they'll get a clue.

I am proud of myself. I've been doing great on WW so far and going to the gym every day, so I'm feeling really good.

And I might actually say that to them. Last weekend I was |_| to saying it to my dad. Next time, I actually might take that distance.

[sam-gamgee.livejournal.com]

I know, and I might take you up on that (more because I miss you, though). I might talk to him, I'm just not sure what I'd say. I've always been pretty private about stuff that's bothering me. (As I'm sure you know.) I have a couple friends - one of which went to high school with me, so we'll see. Thanks.

*hugs you tight*

[sam-gamgee.livejournal.com]

LOL. I'll have to check my schedule. I'll let you know and we can work something out. :-P

(((hugs)))

[sam-gamgee.livejournal.com]

I'd do B, but I don't really have a job, so if I did, I'd have to move in with you. :-) But A is increasingly becoming a possibility.

And, yeah, I think they are.

[spikesleman.livejournal.com]

*cackles*